Girls

It breaks my heart to think that someone can sacrifice so much of themselves for someone else, that they no longer feel like they need the comfort of friends in their lives.

I’ve been struggling to understand and to come to terms with the fact that everyone loves differently. Everyone seeks romantic relationships for different reasons, and as much as I can hope that it’s to better themselves and each other, I understand that this is not always the case.

I’m a firm believer in that you are a product of everyone you’ve met. You become a reflection of the world around you, and you are the perfect combination of the experiences you’ve created. I believe that if you continue to surround yourself in the same environment, you will soon cease to grow. You will cease to learn. You will cease to become.

I’ve witnessed former friends begin relationships that they were not ready for. Hopping in, neck-deep, into uncharted waters. I’ve witnessed friends transform from bestfriends to strangers, because of their significant other’s opinion of their other friendships. I’ve lost friends partially, temporarily, permanently, over their romantic relationships and this reason alone is why I was a disbeliever in romantic relationships altogether for such a long embarrassing time. How could I even become attracted to someone in the first place who disliked my friends?  …I am literally a product of the people I choose to surround myself with.

I believe you should seek love in someone who challenges you. Someone who empowers you. Someone who makes certain you’re maintaining a positive attitude. Who reminds you that you’re loved. Loved without conditions. Loved without question. Someone who teaches you. Someone who learns from you. Someone who brainstorms with you.  Someone who makes certain you’re staying true to yourself, regardless of what that might mean for their own wants.

It breaks my heart to think that girls I once considered friends are disregarding parts of themselves to please someone else. It breaks my heart to think that these girls think that’s what love is about. It’s breaking my heart trying to understand that everyone just wants to feel loved, even if that means destroying parts of themselves.

Is it still “love” if you’re constantly just trying to earn it?